The headline says it all folks. Yesterday?s post was written about a month or so ago. I had some free time so I sat down, and wrote out the whole thing knowing that I would post it when the time came. Tamara wanted to wait until after she had her first prenatal appointment and the first trimester was over, before unleashing the news to the general public. We knew that complications could arise, and the last thing we wanted was everyone knowing, then something bad happening.
So, the good news is that Tamara had her first appointment, and everything is looking good. Her due date is November 9th, and we do not, and will not, know the sex of the baby until he/she is born.
Some of you that know me well might be asking the question, ?Matt, I thought you didn?t want kids?? At one time, that was very true. But after me and Tamara got married, we had a long conversation about it and I really began to realize that having children with her would be perfectly fine. There?s more detail to it than that, but let?s face it folks, you do the math. Do you really think it would have been a good idea for me to have kids 5 years ago? Come on now. It doesn?t take a rocket science to figure out why I didn?t want kids.
I was very surprised, but being told you are going to be a father and then not having things like ?WTF am I going to do??, ?Oh shit?, or ?I gotta get out of here now? run through your head certainly tells you exactly how you feel one way or the other. I can safely say that I am scared to some extent, but I know that things are going to be fine. I?m more worried about how to pay for things while Tamara?s on leave, but we?ll make it work. I know we will. Donations can however be made to the Bobsroom.Com bandwidth fund anytime 😉
Do we have names picked? Yes and no. I think it is safe to say that if we have a girl, we have a name. We have not chosen a boy?s name yet. We have decided that we are not sharing our kids possible names with anyone until the kid is born. We know people have opinions and thoughts, but we know what names we really like, and we know what we will choose. I can guarantee that it will be a normal name, not a very common name, but not something like Snowflake, or Leaf, or Yoshi. Trust me. My kid will have a hard enough time dealing with the last name Klem, let alone a first name like Artichoke or something stupid.
How did the family take it? Until yesterday, most didn?t know. We told our moms (get to that in a moment), very close friends, and a few close relatives but beyond that, no one else. Everyone has been very supportive and happy for us. Now on to what we did to our poor moms.
Before I tell you what we actually did, let me tell you what we were going to do. Tamara was going to invite them over (my mom, her mom) and tell them that she had developed a very serious condition. One which would require multiple doctors visits, some time in the hospital, blood tests, and that the condition would reach its end in early November. We both decided that was too cruel so we went for plan B.
Plan B was simply Tamara talking about her week. Let me paraphrase the conversation Tamara had:
?So, I had a pretty busy week. Monday I had volleyball which was tiring. Tuesday I had a painting class which was a lot of fun, Sandy was with me. Wednesday I had a doctor?s appointment. My due date is November 9th which is good. Thursday I went to work??
It really didn?t go much further than that. The mom?s were like ?What due date??, and then the tears and jumping and excitement followed. It was all good.
I do think that it is important to share the fact that although having a child is a life altering experience, me and Tamara want to be very adamant about the fact that just because we will have a kid, doesn?t mean our entire lives will be about the child. We still want to have people over and enjoy our lives too, so for us, it will be all about balance. I know it drives me nuts when I talk to people and all they talk about is their kids. I don?t want to be one of those people that drives others nuts like that. Kids are great and ours will be awesome, but me and Tamara still need to have our own time as well. That?s why we have awesome grandparents who will babysit when we need a breather.
So folks, that is the huge news. I have been hinting on and off a bit about it but promised to keep my pile hole shut until Tamara had her appointment and she had given the news out at work. You can now enjoy a new counter on the top which shows the progress until she pops, November 9th. WOOO HOOO!!!
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