On August 5th, 2005, I posted about the fact that I had found out about a brother I never knew I had. It was a big surprise but at the time it was an even bigger surprise because it turned out I knew him and had worked with him for almost five years. Today, another similar connection has been made.
A few years after mom moved us to Moncton, dad got remarried and he had a daughter. In all of the time that transpired since then, I never met her. Dad would make the occasional mention of her in passing conversation but I never actually got to meet her. It had always sat in the back of my mind about the fact that I had this sister “out there” that I had never met. But the fact is that I didn’t know whether or not I should try to initiate contact or not so I just left it. I always figured if I wanted to talk to her, I could find a way through my dad.
Well, dad’s gone now. With his departure from this world, the chances of me finding my sister more or less vanished. How would I ever be able to find this person when I don’t even know her last name? I had it written down on a paper somewhere but couldn’t find it.
So, dad’s fiance had told me that Deanna (a friend of dad’s) had spoken to dad’s daughter from time to time so I got Deanna’s phone number and spoke to her. She had no means to contact this long lost sister of mine but said she would do some digging for me. About a week ago, Deanna calls me and gives me dad’s daughter’s sisters name and full address. She also included the last name with this. I typed the last name into Facebook, and up comes a list of people, one of them with the same first name as my sister, and she’s from Edmonton, AB. Both the first and last name are not exactly common names so I had a pretty good inkling that this was who I was looking for.
I actually sent a Facebook message to her boyfriend as I was a little shy about contacting her directly. Tonite after supper, I got a message from her directly and it would now seem that the search is over.
Thanks to an old friend of dad’s and the powers of Facebook, I managed to find an extended member of my family.
Where does it go from here? I have no idea. I don’t expect to instantaneously become part of her life, but I am glad that the door is open, and I have a means to get in touch with her. it’s one of those things where you just feel the need to connect with someone and then you just let it go wherever it goes. If I get to meet her face to face someday, that would be awesome. If she’d rather sort of focus on her own immediate family, that’s fine too. The big thing is to at least have the door open. You just never know what might happen right?
So, to my “little” sister (she’s 22), welcome to the family. Take it however you want. I’m just glad I can finally say I have “met” you, even if it is just online.
